So the essence of meditation is training in something that is quite radical and definitely not the habitual pattern of the species, and that is:
To stay with ourselves no matter what is happening,
without putting labels of good and bad,
right and wrong, pure and impure, on top of our experience.
If meditation was just about feeling good (and I think all of us secretly hope that is what it’s about),we would often feel like we must be doing it wrong.
Because at times, meditation can be such a difficult experience.
A very common experience of the meditator, in a typical day or on a typical retreat, is the experience of boredom, restlessness, a hurting back, pain in the knees—even the mind might be hurting—so many “not feeling good” experiences.
Instead, meditation is about a compassionate openness and the ability to be with oneself and one’s situation through all kinds of experiences.
In meditation, you’re open to whatever life presents you with.